The following is a shocking article I read at the Ruth Institute Blog. I've copied and pasted it in its entirety, but the extra large paragraph was emphasized by me! We truly are on our way to "designer babies"- we are treating babies as if they really are an accessory. Be sure to follow the links noted in the article. They will make your jaw drop.
By Jennifer Lahl, CBC President
As millions around the world celebrated the birth of Jesus, Elton John and his partner, David Furnish, issued a press release announcing the birth of their baby boy, born on Christmas Day. Zachary Jackson Levon Furnish-John, a healthy baby, was born through modern, assisted reproductive technologies (ART). Using an anonymous egg donor and a “gestational carrier” (I always think this term sounds more like a new form of aircraft—as in “the cargo just arrived on the newest gestational carrier.” Where is the feminist outrage?!) Elton and David fulfilled one of their greatest wishes: to be parents. They have now joined the ranks of the growing list ofcelebrities having babies via ART.
This got me thinking about another list I read a few years ago: the “Ten Best Chores to Outsource.” Expecting to see housecleaning, gardening and landscaping, pool cleaning, laundry, I was shocked and saddened by the number one “best chore to outsource”: pregnancy. From the Time piece:
Outsourcing brings to mind big factories and call centers. But entrepreneurs around the globe now offer services—from tutoring to sculpting a bust of your grandpa—to regular folks for a fraction of the cost in the West. Thought the world was flat before? Well, now you can hire someone in India to carry your child.
Entrepreneurs like Rudy Rupak, CEO of medical tourism agency Planet Hospital, are just another example of those who are hopping on the ART modern-family bandwagon. Rupak’s brokering business even offers what his company calls the “India Bundle,” an “affordable” package deal that gives would-be parents an egg donor, four surrogates for four embryo transfers, room and board for the surrogate during the pregnancy, and transportation services when the parents arrive in India to pick up the baby.
Costs escalate from there depending on services rendered. Gay couples wanting to do egg-sharing so that each can offer sperm to fertilize the eggs (so that each has a biological child) drives up the price. All the various preimplantation genetic diagnostic tests also drive costs upward. In sum, this setup is a consumer model of baby-making.
Costs escalate from there depending on services rendered. Gay couples wanting to do egg-sharing so that each can offer sperm to fertilize the eggs (so that each has a biological child) drives up the price. All the various preimplantation genetic diagnostic tests also drive costs upward. In sum, this setup is a consumer model of baby-making.Twins cost more, of course, which brings me to the latest craziness: twiblings. Parents Michael and Melanie Thernstrom recently chronicled their entire infertility story, which is not atypical, inThe New York Times Magazine. After what Melanie describes as many failed relationships, she finally met Mr. Right, but maternal age hindered her ability to get pregnant, so they were off to the fertility doctor for five failed in vitro fertilization (IVF) cycles. Always wanting twins (perhaps forgetting about risks to maternal and infant health with multiple births), they decided to hire not one but two surrogates, enlisted the help of an egg donor, and “gave birth” to a boy and a girl five days apart. Since the babies were from the same egg donor and they used
Michael’s sperm, the children are siblings. Since they were created in the lab at the same time, they are fraternal twins. But given that they were carried in separate surrogate wombs, they have been dubbed twiblings.
Michael’s sperm, the children are siblings. Since they were created in the lab at the same time, they are fraternal twins. But given that they were carried in separate surrogate wombs, they have been dubbed twiblings.Pregnancy has been reduced to a “bits and pieces” brokered industry: sperm from a handsome Scandinavian stud, eggs from a beautiful Ivy League graduate, a womb-for-rent from a poor woman in India trying to provide food and education for her children, and brokers in the middle setting up the legal transactions to build a better baby the 21st-century way.
Meanwhile, cases like those of an Australian couple who aborted their twin boys because they wanted a girl, and Olivia Pratten’s battle for the right to have access to her biological father’s identity (she was born in Canada some 20-plus years ago via anonymous egg donation), make their way through the courts. Just this morning, Nicole Kidman and husband Keith Urbanannounced the birth of their second child together, brought to term by a carefully selected “gestational carrier.” These are uncharted global waters we are swimming in, and sadly, the international laws are at best ad hoc and at worst woefully unregulated. What is more disheartening to me is the lack of a faithful witness from Western Christians (with the exception of Catholic teaching) in response to infertility. From the twiblings piece, a director of a Los Angeles agency for those in search of a surrogate stated that many of their gestational carriers were “mainly white, working-class women, often evangelical Christians — the kind of girls you went to high school with.”
The basics are well established within Christian orthodoxy: Children are a blessing and a gift, not a right. They should be begotten, not made. ART is the manufacturing of children, often by design and often using third parties, and a violation of the doctrine of the two flesh becoming one. In the Garden, husband and wife were a complete family. This was declared very good, even without children being part of the story at that point. While infertility is a sad and difficult occurrence for those who want children, it has been made even more difficult because of a lack of clear Protestant thinking on the matter. Infertility is not a death sentence. Children are not products to be made. Our reproductive bodies are not to be blithely parceled and sold to someone else. And pregnancy is not a chore to be outsourced.It’s time for some more serious corrective thinking lest the reproductive madness get even more out of control, and we be morally complicit in furthering the exploitation of some lives for the making of another.
This article originally appeared as A Woman, Not a ‘Gestational Carrier’ at Her.meneutics

















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Whoa. Watching this... industry... or whatever it's called... develop has been sad and strange. I really feel like we're living out an Orwell novel or something. And how will this affect the children as they grow? It just hurts my head to think about the long-term repercussions.
So sad!
This article is EXTREMELY offensive and about as far from well researched or balanced as anything I have ever read. As a Catholic it makes me sad to see you, Lauren, posting such dribble on what I consider a usually balanced and fair blog.
What is "so sad" is that a few bad doctors and disgusting patients (Australian couple, for example) are the examples that writers pluck from the headlines to define the culture and practices of ART. It would be like writing an article about the "evils" of chemotherapy or dialysis (and essentially the people who need those treatments) because of a few really unethical doctors or patients.
The vast majority of couples who undergo ART use their own eggs, their own sperm, and their own bodies to carry the pregnancy. Most are singletons. They also go through counseling and even say a few prayers to determine whether it is the correct decision for them.
Infertility is a disease. Doctors treat the disease through ART. God works through those doctors to help couples who desperately want children to have them.
I understand that the Catholic church doesn't approve of ART. But they are also gentle in their wording and quick to remind Christians that ALL children, whether they be from IVF or IUI or from the back seat of a car are the gift of God. While they don't approve of the conception, those children are innocent.
I'm going to stop here because I don't want to say anything I don't mean. But your blog will be removed from my reader because the fact that you would read this article and feel it needed to be forwarded on says a lot about you and your ability to decipher the good stuff from the poorly researched and presented rags.
Doctors don't treat infertility through ART, doctors make babies through ART. Doctors treat infertility through surgery, medicine, diet, and other healing means.
Great post Lauren. So very, very sad.
Jillian - okay, the article plucks the worst-case scenarios. Fair enough assertion. I personally did not get the impression the author was implying that these cases were the norm but using them to make a point about the issues that arise with ART. Also, I do not think Americans have much contempt for surrogacy, using third-party genetic material, etc. In other words, you call these examples of "bad patients" and "bad doctors." Well, I don't think a significant portion of our culture would agree with you on that.
And that needs to be addressed.
Btw, I can't count the times people have assured me (when I expressed a desire to have children) that I have "plenty of time" because there is "so much technology now" that I can have a baby at "any age." Or folks say they want to wait to have kids because well, there is plenty of technology to help them have children later. ART is being viewed a normal means of family planning now, almost a luxury, and folks need to think a bit more carefully about what they are really saying.
Thanks for posting, Lauren. Great point, Kaitlin. Sad story seeing the slippery slope...
Jillian definitely touched on something that makes it so tough to talk about ART: ultimately, babies are the result, and babies are a wonderful blessing. As Christians, we know that the gift of a child is one of the greatest gifts, so it can be a difficult thing for someone who has undergone ART or loves people who have to talk about why it might not be the most loving option. It's a tricky subject because the outcome is a very positive one (unlike abortion, which is much more clear-cut for most Christians... killing babies= bad, making babies in any way= good).
Even setting aside the Catholic perspective on procreation necessarily being between a man and a woman in a loving embrace (ha-- that makes it sound like I think babies are made by just hugging, doesn't it? Wait... that's not how it happens?? That's what I was planning to tell my kids until they got married), Lauren's linked article points out the dangers of exploitation: exploiting woman to be used only as wombs or egg donors, exploiting men to be mere donors of sperm, and exploiting children, who are expected to be more "perfect" than real. Even when the parents' genetic material is used, there is still the idea that people have the right to manipulate human life and the right to a biological child.
Infertility is not a disease. Infertility is CAUSED by any number of diseases which manifest themselves as infertility, or make it difficult for a woman to get pregnant.
Gross-out time: Consider constipation. It's not a disease. Constipation is a symptom of a disease or underlying problem. To treat it, the doctor needs to find the actual cause: poor diet, Parkinson's, multiple sclerosis, dehydration, pregnancy, IBS, etc. Once the actual problem is treated, frequently the symptom can be resolved/resolve itself.
Jillian-- don't fault Lauren for holding steady to Catholic teaching. If nothing else, Lauren is consistent in her faith and in presenting that on her blog. Would you not be more disturbed to see her advocating for things that the Church teaches to be morally wrong?
PASSING ON YOUR PRECIOUS DNA IS NOT A RIGHT.
PERIOD.
Wow, that's crazy. And sad. And scary.
Hi Jillian. I hope you come back to respond as you brought up some good points and questions.
As Lisa pointed out, children are ALWAYS a blessing- a gift from God- the method of their conception has no bearing on their souls.
With that fact clearly established, this article was written to connect several main stream dots. Let's look at the links from the article:
1) The ABC article lists 8 celebrity couples who have used a surrogate and a link to surrogacy for "normal people".
2) Time Magazine lists pregnancy as the number one "chore" to outsource.
3) The Wall Street Journal writing about "assembling the global baby", for which there is now a market.
4) The New York Times writing about "twiblings".
The purpose of the article was to examine the idea of out-sourcing pregnancy.
Like Sarah, I also wonder how mainstream ART and surrogacy have become. I myself have received two sincere, loving offers to be a surrogate for J and me. While I appreciate their sincerity and genuine desire to help us, we could never go down that path, as it separates sex and babies. We are interested in being parents- not preserving our genetic material.
The conclusion of the article, which originally appeared in an Evangelical blog, summarized that children are to be begotten, not made, and that ART will continue to lead to such madness as noted in the article.
I'm sorry that you are offended by this and would love to talk to you about the subject of ART either via blog comments or email. Let me know if I can help in any way.
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Lisa and Kaitlin- good points on the treatment of fertility- and question of whether or not it is a disease.
Thanks for sharing this Lauren. It's disturbing on so many levels. And I agree with Cathy's comment: Having a baby is not a "right". Children are not property for us to acquire. They are always and only blessings from God. Just because we can create life through artificial means, doesn't mean we should. We're playing God when we do that. Treating infertility can be morally acceptable, but "creating" children should never be acceptable.
Lauren,
I'm totally surprised that you linked your blog to an article by the Ruth Institute, an organization that promotes "lifelong married love to college students by creating an intellectual and social climate favorable to marriage."
Lifelong marriage?? For College Students???
Aren't we just supposed to be promoting beer, condoms and 4.0s to college students? :-0
Hmm.. I'll not ONLY continue to read your blog daily, I'll also sign up now to send Baby Tess to the same college that you send your Abigail! :-)
Yikes. It's scary that the lines are so blurred that we (as a culture) feel somehow uncomfortable when we hear about these things, but then we shrug it off and assuage our consciences because if someone wants or doesn't want a pregnancy, then that's their "right".
I am offended by women being used and abused by others as "gestational carriers"... This is a total use and abuse of the feminine person... And don't say "a woman can do it for the money if she chooses", people have been trying that old chestnut regarding prostitution for centuries but it is still illegal and, most people would agree, immoral.
LFTL2011- I couldn't agree more. I share your outrage!!
This article made me so overwhelmingly sad. I always feel weird posting here since I have not struggled with infertility, and do not know that pain. But when I read the story of that couple and their "journey" with the surrogates and the donors and all, I felt such sadness. Especially when she said that due to abortion and birth control there are hardly any babies to adopt anymore. Pope Paul was right when he said birth control would open the floodgates, so to speak. The slippery slope to abortion and the idea that children are a commodity and not a gift.
And even if this couple could not adopt a baby for whatever reason, why not look into adopting an older child? Foster homes are full of older children waiting to be adopted, aren't they?
Thanks for this post Lauren. I've been talking about ART with one of my sisters. I agree with Sarah - I wonder what the children who are conceived through these processes are really going to think about themselves. Who wants to find out they were conceived in a test tube? So many problems with ART. What child wants to find out that they have siblings who are still frozen because their parents didn't know what to do? What child wants to find out that they were implanted along with other siblings and then their parents had to make a choice as to which one/ones to keep and the others were aborted? What child wants to find out his mother or father's name is Donor #----- ?
Have you seen the documentary The Business of Being Born? It's pretty granola... I think you might like it :)
Maria- I love it when you comment. Fertiles and infertiles alike are welcome here!!!
Isaiah 55:8-9 (love that Scripture!!! So relevant to...almost everything! Esp. infertility!) I agree completely. I also worry about "designer babies" one day realize they were designed to be a perfect child. I'm thinking ahead to when these babies struggle through life's normal challenges. Will they feel they're worthless because they've disappointed their parents' attempts to create the perfect child?
MLAM- LOL...seriously. When did I get so granola? I haven't seen that movie, but have heard many interesting things from it and am sure I would learn a lot from it. The title alone certainly is relevant to this post. Thanks for making the connection!
I don't even have words. This is appalling.
I'm a recent Ivy League alumna, and I always found it extremely disturbing to pick up a copy of the campus daily to read over breakfast and invariably find an ad requesting my Ivy-grade eggs in exchange for obscene amounts of cash. Really made me lose my appetite, and was a pretty disturbing beginning to my day.
Fortunately, my campus has amazing pro-marriage and pro-life clubs to fight the good fight and stand up for what is right and good.
Wow! I am shocked... Thanks for informing!
Oh Katie...that is so disturbing. We, as a society, are exploiting women and taking advantage of them in moments of need.
Good morning, I'm back :).
I will start by saying that I absolutely do not fault Lauren for promoting the Catholic church's view on ART. I am very educated in their teachings and have read their viewpoints on it several times. One of the most prominent statements (to me, anyway) on the Vatican's website clearly says "Heterologous artificial fertilization is contrary to the unity of marriage, to the dignity of the spouses, to the vocation proper to parents, and to the child's right to be conceived and brought into the world in marriage and from marriage".
Got it. I'm not fighting the church on this or fighting Lauren about her correct assertion that the Catholic church has very specific feelings on this.
But. That doesn't make this article any less offensive. The "slippery slope" argument is not an argument at all. Because it is full of assumptions that usually use chicken little "the sky is falling" prophecies. Do regulations surrounding ART and it's uses need to be tweaked? Maybe. Do couples who proceed with ART need to be counseled and given great medical care (both physical and psychological)? YES. Do conversations about surrogacy and "outsourcing" deserve a concerning and thorough look? Absolutely. But should the twiblings, Elton John, and pregnancy being listed as a "chore" cast a negative shadow over ART and couples who choose ART in GENERAL? No. Like slippery slopes, generalizations aren't fair or smart when making a point.
The splitting of hairs about whether infertility is a disease or a manifestation of a disease is something we can agree to disagree on. For transparency, I have tubal disease. One that could only be circumvented through IVF. Whether I choose/chose to treat that disease and have biological children is my decision - one between God, my husband, and myself. One that is sacred and hard and full of tears.
Without getting long winded I will leave you with this one thought. As a Catholic and a Christian I know that you want to educate people on the church's teachings. Doing it with articles like this one is not the way to sway opinion. This article is a big sensationalist rambling that turns a good point (the church's TRUE teaching) and belittles it to tabloid fodder.
My decision to undergo or not undergo IVF to cure my problem had NOTHING to do with the Hollywood culture or a NYT article. It had to do with a series of SERIOUS conversations with my husband, our Priest, and some extremely close friends.
One of the beautiful things about the Reproductive Endocrinology community is that it provides couples with choices. Leveling it down to the desire to "pass your precious DNA" is so unfair. Is that what your desire was to do when you concieved your children? To pass your DNA? I would guess not. The desire is to love an nurture a child, bring them up to be happy and healthy and good members of society. Adoption is not an option for many (due to cost, personal circumstances, etc). My husband is in the military, as a member of the armed services it is MUCH harder to get an adoption placement. Also, my medical insurance (not Tricare - but my personal employment's insurance) covered ART 100%. So cost was not a factor. As you can see, this is a complicated, muddy, and emotional topic.
At the end of the day, I just want the general public to be educated in the standard and typical practices of ART and the families that do it. Not the sensationalist examples that so many people use to formulate these "shock factor" articles.
One last recommendation - if you want to read a very spiritual and uplifting book about Christians and their decisions to go forward or not go forward with ART read "Pregnant with Hope" by Susan Radulovacki. It is very educational and might give your readers some insight into the difficulty of this journey. It might quash the hurtful "you are a total narcissist to want your own children" argument.
The good news is it that it is a POSITIVE read - whether you agree or disagree with ART.
Jillian, I am SO glad you came back!!! I was hoping and praying that you would.
You make a valid point that this article was not one to convince the average married couple suffering from IF on whether or not to use ART. My purpose in posting this was to reveal the horrid exploitation of women, as Living for the Lord and Katie point out, as well as the dangers of creating a "designer baby". I realize that I have never written a post specifically on the subject of ART, so perhaps this felt out of left-field.(?)
I am so sorry for your struggle with infertility. I know my own pain well, as well as friends, and deeply sympathize with your longing and struggle.
By the way, my husband is also in the military, and I would be happy to share with you how that has actually helped us in our adoption process. Please feel free to email me.
You sound very educated and informed on ART and the Church, but you've inspired me to dedicate a post on it. Hope you come back to comment.
Jillian - we are all sensitive to your situation and your pain.....
But it comes down to this - how many tiny embryos needed to be created (and then die) so you could have your precious baby?
The end does not justify the means...
And as Oprah says "i did what I did with what I knew at the time, now that I know better I can do better"
We all wish you peace in the Lord.
Lauren, you were brave to post this and correct to do so. These types of scenarios are exactly why the Church's wisdom must be heeded. Slippery slopes are playing out all around us, and the justification for it is everywhere as well. It all seems normal now, but I thank God that the Church will hold firm till the end of time. Truth doesn't cease to be truth simply because it becomes unpopular.
And it makes me so sad that even many of our priests are misguided and misinformed, counseling their parishioners into committing a grave sin. It makes me so sad. So much more education is needed. Thank God for the Ruth Institute.
I read this post this week at school (can't post on my school computer, not sure why) and forwarded the link to my mother. The picture of the baby with the upc code is EXACTLY what people are trying to do!!
And what of the poor Indian women whose daily "job" this is for a measly few thousand dollars??? It must be mentally and emotionally taxing on them, they are taken such advantage of just becuase they are in desperate need of financial assistance for their children.
What a wonderful post, I wish this could be on the front page of the New York Times......
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