Worth the Wait

How I have longed to write this post!  So many times I have stared at my side bar where "Introduction" posts are listed.  1st, 2nd and 3rd unsuccessful adoptions.  Dare I write a "1st successful adoption" post, or would there be a 4th?  I decided to wait.

Here I sit one day after finalization, and the world is such a lovelier place!  It is with such peace and joy that I am writing!  Sometimes you don't realize how heavy your heart has been until you can finally sigh in relief.  I truly thought finalization would just make the legal reality match the reality of our hearts- that we are, indeed, a family. But I have such relief and feel so much lighter today!  Such sweet joy!

Last night I couldn't fall asleep.  My usual practice at this point is to picture Christ on the cross while I say my prayers.  But when I summoned the mental image, what appeared was different.  Christ was resurrected.  I almost cried right there in bed lying next to my husband and baby.

Thank you, Jesus- my Lord, my Redeemer, and my Savior, for resurrecting my cross.  Thank you for bringing our hopes and dreams to a reality.  Thank you for bringing new life from our wounds and for not sending our love back void.  Thank you for this precious, beautiful, sweet baby girl.  I am so not worthy, but I will rejoice in this precious gift with all my heart.

It's difficult to know where to begin Abigail's story.  Is it with infertility?  The previous adoption that she came on the heels of?  Or just the moment we laid eyes on her at the hospital?  I've come to understand that it's all of the above and more.  It began with loving my brothers and seeing my parents openness to life.  It's baby-sitting and learning to nurture.  It's loving my husband and seeing our babies in his eyes.  It's in the Lord who "chose us in Him before the foundation of the world" (Ephesians 1:4).  It's in love!

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 Precious Abigail,

I have longed for you for as long as I can remember!  Your Daddy and I dreamed of holding you, loving you, teaching you and being with you since we knew we were going to get married!  You have always been a part of our lives, before we even knew your name.  It took us a long time to get to you, and parts of the journey were very hard, but you were so worth the wait.


Daddy and I wanted our family to grow, and we were hoping to adopt a special baby.  Three different times we thought we'd found our baby, but it did not work out.  Each time we were heart-broken and prayed for the strength to trust the Lord and try again.  A few days after our third heartache, we went to our social worker for help.  "How can we get through this?" we asked.  "How can we try again?  It is so painful when your hopes and dreams end so abruptly."  Ms. Anne listened to the Lord and asked us to be very brave.  She told us that even though we were sad about Caeden Michael, there was another Tummy Mama who wanted us to be the baby's family.

We left that day knowing that a baby girl was going to be born in a month and that we were hoping to be her parents.   We were so scared, but the Lord gave us the courage we needed to try again.  "Take courage!" Jesus whispered to my heart again and again.  I kept picturing a beautiful curly haired girl, and my heart would dare to hope again.  I begged the Lord that this time we could be the baby's parents.

On September 12, 2010, Ms. Anne called us.  "The baby girl was born!  Can you come to the hospital?"  We jumped in the car and started driving before we realized we had forgotten our camera!  Quick!  Back to the house and out again to see YOU!

 You were SO BEAUTIFUL.  You were so AWAKE!  You didn't want to miss ANYTHING!  You were looking all around and stared at your Daddy.  He stared right back at you- totally in love!  We held you and loved you as long as we could before we had to go back home.  The whole way home I looked at all the pictures and show them to your Daddy.  We could not get enough of you!!!  When we got home I dared to cut the tags off the girl clothes that we bought and washed them!  I packed the diaper bag and moved the cradle from the guest bedroom closet into our room.  Would there REALLY be a baby there soon?  We were still so scared!

The next day we picked up breakfast and drove to the hospital.  Daddy and your tummy mama's friend went to get coffee in the hospital and your tummy mama and I got to talk and stare at you.  She loves you SO much, Abigail.  She was one hundred percent convinced she had the perfect family for you.  She held you and cuddled you and kissed you- and then she handed you to me.  We drove her home, and then we had you all to ourselves!

Ms. Leslie and Ms. Robin came to see you and we proudly showed off our new daughter!

The next morning, your Daddy had to do a few things, so I had you ALL TO MYSELF!  I savored every moment and could not get enough of you.  I stared and stared and stared at you.  I could not believe I was in charge of feeding you and changing your diapers.  I was in complete awe.  This was the day we would take you HOME!!!!

But not before we got some bad news.  Right before you were released from the hospital, we found out there was a legal technicality, and that you may not get to stay with us.  I wanted to die.  Never before have I been SO SCARED in my whole life.  You were our daughter.  We were totally and completely in love with you.  It was with joyful and heavy hearts that we signed our papers and brought you home.  It was the best and the worst week of my entire life.  The best because YOU were HOME!  OUR home!!!  And we were MADE to be your parents!  But it was the worst because we were TERRIFIED of losing you.

Grammie and Gabbie came to visit and they fell in love, too!!  They stayed until Monday when Ms. Anne came.  She knew more about our situation and we were able to breath more easily.

Months have gone by.  You were Baptized into God's family and adopted by the Lord!  And now you're officially ours!  We are overwhelmed with gratitude to the Lord for trusting us with your care.  We are in awe of the sacrifice it took to bring you to us.  You are our living miracle.  You are our tangible reality of hope.  You are our daughter, and we love you with all our hearts.

With all our love
Mommy and Daddy


P.S.  To anyone who's been hurt and is afraid to try again:
DON'T MISS OUT ON AN ABIGAIL!