While focused on praying for the adoptions of Allie (update, please!), Grace in my Heart, and real-life friend, Mary Elizabeth, WE received a phone call yesterday just as J was about to head back to work after lunch. A baby had been born Sunday (the day before) and they were having a hard time finding a family that met birth mom's requirements. We did fit- could they show our profile?
WHAT??????????
This came completely out of left field. We are not actively seeking an adoption and don't technically qualify until Abigail's a year. But our home study is current and the wonderful social workers know we're always open, so they thought they'd offer it to us.
We took several minutes to talk and pray about it. ("Abigail, do you want a baby sister for your birthday?") Ultimately we decided YES- but were a bit terrified to have two under the age of one! And so began our brief roller coaster ride.
The social worker faxed our old profile and I emailed updated pictures and a "Dear Birth Mother" letter. This morning around ten we found out SHE CHOSE US! She was set to sign around noon and we started working on getting our background checks up to date.
But when birth mom went to sign, she decided to look at families again with the birth dad's input. Together they decided to pick a different family who was local.
The heart sighs and aches- but what a difference it makes to have Abigail to hold and distract me. We are so excited about growing our family, but think a few more months of letting Abigail be "the baby" will be good for us all. I'm excited for the family who has a new baby girl tonight!
It was a brief and intense 23 hour roller coaster ride for us- and one that I dread as we enter the adoption field again. The waiting...I can't stand the waiting and being completely out of control of the situation. But it's also a relief to know it is slightly easier, because even in the heartache, the house will never be as quiet as it was 1 year ago.
Continuing to pray for you ladies seeking adoption.
23 comments:
Wow, so tough! I can imagine that was very hard. But I love how open you are to whatever God has planned!!
Oh my! What a tough situation, but I'm sure that God has a plan for your family!
Wow, that is a roller coaster. It is so good of you to be open on the spur of the moment.
Woah, crazy!!! Definitely a roller coaster ride you just went on.
This gives me hope that despite the disappointments we go through w/ adoption, the babies God has planned for us, do come. xo!
Holy cow! Talk about an intense 23 hours. While I agree that already having a little one at home helps in situations like this, the ache of wanting more babies is still there.
That being said...I love your heart! Not many people I know would be "excited for the family who has a new baby girl" if they were in your shoes.
wow! uh, roller coaster ride for SURE!
Wow, Lauren!! Wow! It sounds like God had other plans, but I am glad you have your sweet baby to cuddle in the meantime.
That is wonderful and you handled it beautifully!
Wow, that was intense!! I am so amazed at the grace you displayed through it all, and I can't wait for that next little one to join your family!
Incredible! I feel like I know exactly what you felt those 24 hours! And I also know, of course, how much easier it is to let go when you have a sweet baby in your arms.
Woah! Lauren-you are so beautiful and full and graciousness! Praise God that she chose adoption. Continued prayers for a sibling for Abigail-in God's timing.
Oh what a tease. I hate that for you. But i'm liking the way you look at it. You are soooooo blessed to have that beautiful little Abigail. What a true angel in your life! I know God has more in store for you:) LOVE YOU!!!!!!!
Oh my goodness! I'm a little sad. Thank you for saying "yes"--I can't imagine what that does for the birth mom. God loves a generous heart! It is neat to see it played out so vividly and joyfully in the adoption area. Praying for your heartache to heal and for God to bless Abigail with the right sibling in his perfect time.
You are a WONDER to me Miss Lauren! You're raising that bar of holy discipleship every day for the rest of us puny hearted slugs!
Oh, how heartbreaking. I'm sorry.
We had something similar happen to us last month, but our HS was not updated with Sarah as an addition to our family. We could not pursue for other reasons too, but in truth, I worried too about having two babies so close in age. Crazy...after all these years of IF that something like *that* would scare me. In the end, God's will prevailed (as always).
Boy, that was a crazy past 24 hours!
and I thought things were crazy for us here in Ukraine!!
blessings on your openness to life -read JBTC's recent post that being open to life does not alway mean a baby but a spritual disposition open to God...
that is you and your DH!! Awesome!!
Carla
www.bringinghenryhome.blogspot.com
OOOppps, I meant
This Cross I Embrace (TCIE's) recent post...
sorry.
Carla
So exciting for all of you and so wonderful that you were open to the situation. Praying for wisdom and strength for you while waiting for another adoption.
WOW!!! what a roller coaster!!!!! How wonderful she chose life :) and glad you were able to handle this so well!!!!
Woah, Lauren, what a crazy turn of events, but your heart is so full of love and joy, that I know you guys would have been great handling 2 under 1. Tough of course, but you are such an inspiration! I agree with Hebrew's - what trust you have in the Lord and I hope I can be that open to his will and promptings as much as you are!
Your profile led them to pick the family that was God's Will for them. So beautiful. What a roller coaster ride, indeed!
What a crazy roller coaster ride - I'm sorry.
Kelly
Wow! What a whirlwind! It seems like you handled this entire situation so gracefully. I'm so sorry it didn't work out, though.
Wow, so sorry things didn't work out, but what an exciting time! Who knows what is around the corner at any given time, right?
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